The truth is, unless you share similar experiences to, or an affinity for that specific culture, you may not be quite as excited as this particular individual who thought it was a worthy enough fact to interrupt the paid entertainment with. We can all, however, be appreciative of being able to witness someone filled with pride, that another person who shares characteristics similar to their own can be successful.

An inability to understand the scenario described above is actually a matter of privilege. Privilege, in itself, is not an inherently bad thing… but it can be a very large hindrance to your ability to see the perspective of others. Let’s examine.

I myself, am partl black, and I have a friend who is white. I actually have quite a few friends who are white; but this particular Caucasian kemosabe in question grew up in an extremely white part of his city. In fact, in college, he told me that I was his very first black friend or acquaintance. I felt somewhat honored that I got to break him in, and joked that I hope I don’t mess it up for all the rest. To say the least, my friend and I were raised in very different cultures, but we both ended up teaching each other a lot. We built a lot of trust, and had some very insightful and incisive conversations. We both introduced each other to different things that we loved (movies, music, food, hobbies), and had some real Remember the Titans moments.

My friend and I loved to watch and play sports together, united by our love for competition as well as for the Seattle Seahawks. I’ll never forget one day him stopping me, and saying, “Hey, I notice you cheer specifically for all of the black quarterbacks to succeed, and make it a big deal about their race… why don’t you do that for all of the white ones as well?” He even seemed a little annoyed by it. If it was anyone else, I may have been offended by the question. Coming from this guy, I knew it was coming from a place of naiveté. Our conversation also made me realize that the “societal majority” doesn’t usually share the same understanding of kinship that we as minorities in American society feel with each other. Why is it that Koreans moms (according to a good friend) who don’t know each other, can easily strike up conversation like old friends in public? How do you explain ‘the nod’ that many of us black men give each other (which I remember observing from my father from a young age)? He genuinely didn’t get it.

I explained to him some of the reasons why I love to see black quarterbacks succeed after a history of being shut out of that role on the team. I’ve written previously about how blacks were not even considered intellectually capable of even being able to play the position. Whenever I see a black quarterback excelling at quarterback, that feels like a win for society and social progress to me! He never felt this sort of a kinship and hope for success for white quarterbacks, because he never lacked for representation in that arena. He never had to think twice about whether or not there were any that were capable of succeeding! White quarterbacks have never been doubted solely because of their skin tone.

So many minority groups have given undying support to such celebrities as Jackie Robinson, Manny Pacquiao, Jeremy Lin, Conor McGregor, Jackie Chan, Canelo Álvarez, Tiger Woods, Shakira, The Rock, Yao Ming, heck… even Eminem can (somewhat) be included in this discussion! Whenever an individual who isn’t a part of the majority finds notoriety, it becomes noteworthy. Those of us who identify with them feel a sense of endearment to them. Witnessing them being able to hold a measure of power, voice and influence that our group does not usually hold is a feeling that cannot be explained.

This is also a reason why I reluctantly included Eminem in the above examples. Although it cannot fully extend as an example, since white males are the majority in America, the subject of Slim Shady may be one of the closest where white people may be able to (even in a tiny, tiny way) understand this feeling of minority kinship. Em has been rightly celebrated for his unapologetically gritty demeanor, deep rhymes, and constant F-you attitude towards the world. White people really did rally to embrace his whole persona in rap. Black listeners, and fellow collaborators liked him too. White people could be born in rough neighborhoods, rely on a gangster mentality and spit bars too! They finally weren’t precluded (or billed as a gimmick) because of their race! He may not have been my idol, but that did seem cool to me.

This is why we all care about seeing a person that we relate to succeed where others traditionally haven’t. It is an even more amplified and unexplainable feeling for us as minorities because of complicated issues such as westernized standards of success and beauty in American society, and things like homophily. Each achievement can feel like a shattering of a glass ceiling and a removal of any real or implied cap on our potential.

All of this is why it has been a joy to watch black quarterbacks in 2019 shattering all kinds of barriers. This is truly the golden age of black quarterbacking! It isn’t that I root against white quarterbacks… When the Seattle Seahawks acquired Matt Flynn in 2013, I hoped with everything in me that he would turn out to be the greatest QB to ever live! Brett Favre is one of my favorites of all time. I could go down the list talking about great white quarterbacks that I’ve admired and continue to root for. But there is something special about seeing athletes that look like me (just a little more in shape) reach those heights as well.

Let’s celebrate together! Starting with my hometown team, it is pretty special that Russell Wilson, a black quarterback, became the highest paid player in NFL history this past summer. Other’s have gotten paid since, but can you imagine how crazy it must be to witness for those who have lived in a world where African Americans were paid peanuts (if that) compared to white men?? That world wasn’t too long ago to be honest with you. Wilson is a perennial MVP candidate, owns tremendous mental toughness, has a black backup quarterback in Geno Smith, and is generally a standup guy and great example in numerous ways.

Of course, Lamar Jackson has been transcendent, and has rivaled Wilson in a spectacular battle for the Most Valuable Player award in 2019. Lamar is a true weapon at the position and has the ability to wreck the league and change the game going forward. People doubted whether or not he could be a functional NFL quarterback, and some even heavily suggested that he would need to switch positions to find success in this league. Jackson has proven himself with a vengeance, while justifying any and all comparisons to dual-threat godfather, Michael Vick in the process.

How can we forget about Patrick Mahomes! He is a young prodigy at the position, and the defending league MVP as a black quarterback. Mahomes’ offensive output in 2018 was prolific, and if he is back for the playoffs this year, Kansas City has to be seen as a threat to represent the AFC in the Super Bowl. He has the potential to break a lot of passing records in this league.

There is a very good chance that a black quarterback wins MVP of the NFL this season. The top 3 MVP candidates coming into Week 11 were all black quarterbacks (Jackson, Wilson and Houston’s Deshaun Watson). Let that sink in… that means that we’d have back-to-back different black quarterbacks win the league’s highest honor. In that scenario, 3 of the last 5 MVP’s (Cam Newton won in 2015 while carrying his team’s offense) will be different black quarterbacks! How about the fact that in 2019 so far, the top 5 quarterbacks in QBR (Total Quarterback Rating) are all African American! Of the top 10 QB’s in passing touchdowns, 6 of them are black!

A great take I heard from Max Kellerman (of all people), is that the fact that there are black quarterbacks in starting positions that represent different points on the talent spectrum is one of the biggest signs that there has been progress. No longer does a black QB have to be undeniably great to even get a shot. We have the legends above, as well as mid-tier and even low-tier guys (guys like Geno Smith come to mind) and backups (Tyrod Taylor). Will we even get the chance for Colin Kaepernick to rightfully earn a QB job in the league after all that has been said and done? I don’t know the answer to that, but there are plenty of guys showing us that anything is possible.

Dak Prescott leads the league in passing yards, and is the quarterback of “America’s Team” in Dallas. Jameis Winston is second in the league in passing yards, and has been afforded many chances in Tampa Bay to prove that he can lead his team. Dwayne Haskins is a first round rookie and potential heir to the throne in D.C. who has been named the starter for the rest of the season. Teddy Bridgewater aggressively pursued a 2-year comeback from a horrific, life-threatening leg injury to go 5-0 in Drew Brees’ stead while throwing for 9 touchdowns and 2 interceptions. Jacoby Brissett has had the chance to pilot the Indianapolis Colts as the unquestioned starter after Andrew Luck’s shocking retirement and a lackluster first year with the team. He is doing quite well, with a nearly 100-level Quarterback Rating. The #1 pick in this year’s draft was Kyler Murray, an explosive athlete with elite potential.

All of this needs to be seen as a win for us all. I have personally been inspired by how these men have gone against the grain to thrive at the highest level. Nobody is excluded from lauding those who blaze trails, open up possibilities and help others to feel included. We will always have doubters that point out things to try to disqualify us. I hope that none of us, regardless of what we look like and where we come from, are mentally bound by what others see as limitations. Black quarterbacks have never been in a more powerful position in the National Football League. What a way to celebrate the 100th season of operation. Oh, and a white guy leads the league in rushing…

To see such a charismatic, eloquent and commanding presence break through, and be elected — by the people of a nation that once viewed his entire race as less than human, no less — was an incredible achievement in and of itself. Although we have much more to do, at the time, I felt that this was a message to the world about how far America has come.

The NFL in particular, embarking on its 100th season of play, is still waging that fight in a league of players that is composed of roughly 70% African Americans. We can look at the all-important position of quarterback as one example. As recently as the 1980’s, African Americans were not believed to have the mental capacity to play the position of quarterback. This notion, of course, has been found wrong, and we now have many successful black quarterbacks in the NFL. As it stands now, seven of the 32 teams in the league have a black quarterback inserted as its expected starter. It did take time.

As far as head coaches go, if it weren’t for the Dolphins hire of former Patriots defensive coordinator, Brian Flores, black coaches would have been shut out from the 8-position hiring process this year. Four of the NFL’s head coaches are men of color, three of which are black men, Ron Rivera of the Carolina Panthers being the only Latino (although we should remember that there is near constant yearly turnover of a good chunk of these positions).

On the corporate side, Ozzie Newsome was the first black GM in NFL history in 2002. Newsome, a former Hall of Fame player, was the key architect in Baltimore’s two super bowl winning teams. Currently, there is only one general manager of an NFL team who is of African American descent: Chris Grier of the Miami Dolphins.

Let’s take a closer look at what is going down in Miami. As mentioned before, Miami also houses 1 of the 3 black coaches in the NFL in Brian Flores.

Chris Grier was named the GM of the Miami Dolphins in 2016, and was given power to oversee all football operations on the last day of 2018. His first head coaching hire in this capacity? Brian Flores, who helped to orchestrate arguably the greatest defensive performance and game plan in Super Bowl history. Flores has been described in NFL circles as intelligent, hard-working, and demanding as a coach… and he has a pretty inspiring story of working his way to the top.

Other notable hires by the Miami Dolphins this offseason have included former Colts and Lions head coach, Jim Caldwell as an assistant head coach and former Raiders and Packers executive and GM, Reggie McKenzie as a senior personnel exec. These are both accomplished and well-respected black leaders in the NFL.

Flores also hired Patrick Graham (whom he worked with in New England) as his defensive coordinator. While none of the major news sites will mention that he is also a black man, it looks like Flores is giving these men opportunities on his staff. It isn’t only black men, as the many other coaches and executives are white, and Chad O’Shea will lead the offense, while Danny Crossman will lead the special teams; but the number of black men in key leadership roles in the front office is obviously notable.

Many times men of color in leadership positions will give other men of color chances even if they don’t fit the stereotype of what we’ve seen NFL trends to look like. This is almost a necessity at this point, as they may not get many other chances elsewhere. That is a somewhat sad reality in many facets of American industry.

We saw this play out with the highly respected Tony Dungy, the first black coach to win the Super Bowl as well as the first to be elected to the Hall of Fame. He was more than willing to give qualified black coaches a chance to work under him and be mentored. From his coaching tree came an accomplished group of black coaches that includes Herm Edwards, Jim Caldwell, Mike Tomlin, Lezlie Frazer, and Lovie Smith (whom he ended up squaring off against in the aforementioned Super Bowl). All of those coaches have led an NFL team to the playoffs while Smith, Tomlin and Caldwell have all been to Super Bowls.

“I learned the coaching game and etiquette, and was given an opportunity to excel in a space that has traditionally excluded and undervalued men of color.”

–Mike Tomlin in reference to his time on Tony Dungy’s coaching staff

And that’s really what it is, isn’t it?? Many times an opportunity is all that is needed for minority candidates for leadership positions in underrepresented spaces! From there, the results-driven nature of the NFL will weed out the great leaders from the rest. To climb the ladder from coaching intern, to quality control staff, to positional coach, to coordinator, to assistant head coach, to head coach is already an arduous enough task, rife with competitors. But there are some who are willing to give more men of color an opportunity to start on that path and let their own drive and accomplishments take it from there. That’s what a true meritocracy is: You earn based on your performance, not your skin color.

Now, is this all going on to the naïveté of white team owner Stephen Ross? Will he one day wake up in a panic, clutching his chest and suddenly realizing that he is surrounded by strong black voices? No!! Ross is founder of the Ross Initiative in Sports for Equality, which champions social justice and fights racial discrimination. By the looks of it, Stephen Ross may be invited to the cookout.

General manager and head coach are two positions with a great emphasis on leadership, and management of personalities and strategy. It may not need to be said, or it may need to be: there have been many great black leaders just in our nation’s history alone. To look for one static demographic or look of a leader means you will most likely miss out on potentially great hires that don’t fall under that specific subset of phenotypes. Just ask Sean Payton.

The growing pervasiveness of the black QB may have been the first step, are coach and (to more of an extent) GM the next steppingstones in opportunity for qualified African Americans to prove our worth?

How much of the racial disparities at different positions in football are socialized? Why are there so few black centers? Why are there so few white cornerbacks? Why so few black general managers? Sometimes in life we, as humans, take the paths of least resistance to success, which can further carve out the pre-existing stereotypes and trends.

Once barriers are broken, it is on the individual to not settle for what they are told is their designated lane, but also on corporations to continue not to let outdated stereotypes dictate who opportunities are handed out to.

Either way, it should be fascinating to see how the Miami Dolphins operate over the next 2-3 years. They seem to be tearing it all down, rebuilding from the ground up, and playing the long game. Instant results may not be in the cards… but will their rebuild coincide with the end of the division rival New England Patriots dynasty? Is there Patriot collusion and inside information from Flores’ side?? Many can only hope. Mayyyybe they’ll even make this whole thing come full-circle huh? We’ll see if Ross is really that woke.

In the meantime, men of varying race and background are being given the opportunity to play key roles in the herculean task of getting the Dolphins to where they need to be: out of the mediocrity that has afflicted them in the shadow of Tom Brady for so long. Whether they succeed or fail, owner Stephen Ross has sent a statement to the league and his fans. He has entrusted Chris Grier to call the shots as the leader of his organization. Grier seems to understand that black mentorship is important, and that Miami will be all-hands-on-deck; and that is a good thing for the advancement and competitiveness of the National Football League.